Let’sTalk About Sex (Part 2)
Last week, we established that the primary purpose of sex is to unite a man and his wife physically, emotionally and spiritually. We mentioned oxytocin, the bonding hormone, and how levels increase during sexual intimacy that create an emotional bond, a soul-tie, between two persons that could last a life-time. For this reason, sex is designed by God to take place within the context of a marriage covenant between a man and woman committed to each other for life.
But the gift of sex within a covenantal marriage is designed by God to accomplish two other very important purposes, one of which is reproduction. “Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth,” God said to Adam and Eve. God’s will has always been for men and women to marry, have children, and establish godly families that will glorify Him and bring them joy.
No privilege is greater, no responsibility more important than that of caring for children. And the ideal context for this to occur, the one intended for all children by the Creator, is a loving, nuclear family formed by a man and a woman who are married and committed to each other and to their children. Admittedly, due to the imperfect world we live in, this ideal is not always accomplished, but it remains God’s perfect will, nevertheless. Children are a blessing, not a burden! Marriage is between a man and a woman. A baby is a child, not a choice!
Now, as important as reproduction is, they are mistaken who embrace the spiritual and reproductive benefits of sex in marriage, while frowning on couples who become intimate for pleasure. The truth is God intended married couples to enjoy sex. The more a husband and wife find intimacy pleasurable, and satisfying, the better.
God wants times of intimacy between spouses to be times of ecstasy; this is evident in the way he designed our bodies! Have you stopped to think that the only reason sex produces such powerful, pleasurable sensations is because God created our body parts the way He did and chose strategically to place the right types of nerves at the right places? Why would God design our bodies in this manner, if it was not His intention for sex to be one of the most pleasurable experiences a person can have on this earth? God intended sex for pleasure because He wants us to get a taste of the joy we will experience in heaven forever through our spiritual union with Christ. It is a foretaste of the bliss of heaven!
To married couples in the Corinthian Church, Paul said, “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband…Defraud ye not one another” (2 Cor. 7). The expression “due benevolence” can be translated “acts of goodness and kindness which are due.” If you are married, God views sexual fulfillment as an act of goodness and kindness your spouse has a right to receive from you! Do not deprive each other of sexual satisfaction.
And finally, in the words of Scripture, to all married men, Solomon says:
Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love. (Proverbs 5:15-19 NIV)
What a God! What a gift!