Let’sTalk About Sex (Part 2)
Last week, we established that the primary purpose of sex is to unite a man and his wife physically, emotionally and spiritually. We mentioned oxytocin, the bonding hormone, and how levels increase during sexual intimacy that create an emotional bond, a soul-tie, between two persons that could last a life-time. For this reason, sex is designed by God to take place within the context of a marriage covenant between a man and woman committed to each other for life.
But the gift of sex within a covenantal marriage is designed by God to accomplish two other very important purposes, one of which is reproduction. “Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth,” God said to Adam and Eve. God’s will has always been for men and women to marry, have children, and establish godly families that will glorify Him and bring them joy.
No privilege is greater, no responsibility more important than that of caring for children. And the ideal context for this to occur, the one intended for all children by the Creator, is a loving, nuclear family formed by a man and a woman who are married and committed to each other and to their children. Admittedly, due to the imperfect world we live in, this ideal is not always accomplished, but it remains God’s perfect will, nevertheless. Children are a blessing, not a burden! Marriage is between a man and a woman. A baby is a child, not a choice!
Now, as important as reproduction is, they are mistaken who embrace the spiritual and reproductive benefits of sex in marriage, while frowning on couples who become intimate for pleasure. The truth is God intended married couples to enjoy sex. The more a husband and wife find intimacy pleasurable, and satisfying, the better.
God wants times of intimacy between spouses to be times of ecstasy; this is evident in the way he designed our bodies! Have you stopped to think that the only reason sex produces such powerful, pleasurable sensations is because God created our body parts the way He did and chose strategically to place the right types of nerves at the right places? Why would God design our bodies in this manner, if it was not His intention for sex to be one of the most pleasurable experiences a person can have on this earth? God intended sex for pleasure because He wants us to get a taste of the joy we will experience in heaven forever through our spiritual union with Christ. It is a foretaste of the bliss of heaven!
To married couples in the Corinthian Church, Paul said, “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband…Defraud ye not one another” (2 Cor. 7). The expression “due benevolence” can be translated “acts of goodness and kindness which are due.” If you are married, God views sexual fulfillment as an act of goodness and kindness your spouse has a right to receive from you! Do not deprive each other of sexual satisfaction.
And finally, in the words of Scripture, to all married men, Solomon says:
Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love. (Proverbs 5:15-19 NIV)
What a God! What a gift!
Blessings,
Bishop Johnson
A Moment of Grace 
I do not see a lot of response to this, but I very well do pray that MILLIONS read this Bishop J. Thanks for the Word….
Bishop,
This article is very informative and eye opening for me because I would have never seen a comparison between “sex and heaven” in the context you placed it. This makes it easier for married couples to have sex more often without feeling guilty.
In addition, Heb 13:4 says, marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled. I believe that God ‘s word is saying that the marriage bed is pure, clean and holy. This fits right into your comparison perfectly.
Since the marriage bed is pure,clean, and holy and sex is a “foretaste of the bliss of heaven,” then sex was truely designed to be good. A time to bond, spiritually, physically and emotionally with your spouse.
A person once said, that “human sexual intercourse is like the American economy, when it is bad, it is still pretty good, and when it is good, WOW!!! it is positively outstanding. Truth is sex could be 1/4 as fun and people would still do it. So, evolution cannot account for it”.
I’m wondering the same thing that Mcneil White is wondering. lol
My comments on sex being a “foretaste of heaven” come from Paul’s revelation in Ephesians 5 that the relationship between a husband and wife is a type of Christ and the church. That means that the marriage union is patterned after the eternal union between Christ and us and is intended to help us understand what we can look forward to.
Bishop, I am always blessed by your sermons! The spirit of God led me to these series on sex today, 11/15/17! As a single woman, I am faced with many sexual temptations and these teachings on the subject came just on time! Please teach more on the subject. The Church needs it and not too many Pastors want to touch on the subject. I pray that the Lord will continue to use you, and give you the wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of his Word, and the boldness to teach. You are a very unique Man of God, and I am so proud to have you and Lady Chrys in my life. You are an example of Christian leadership! Thank you so much for being my teacher! Can I have your permission to teach your sermons?
Hi Bishop,
I found your article very intriguing. Are there any scriptures backing this comment in the article in straight forward words? You noted, “He wants us to get a taste of the joy we will experience in heaven forever through our spiritual union with Christ. It is a foretaste of the bliss of heaven!” I’d appreciate knowing what they are. Especially where you noted a comparison of sex in marriage as, “a foretaste of the bliss of heaven”.
-McNeil
This teaching has been really uplifting for me bishop – especially the first part. I learned a lot and thankful for the teaching.
very deep and encouraging teaching. absolutely powerful. thank you bishop darlington.