Let’s Talk About Sex
I admit this is not a subject I am comfortable talking about publicly. But I had to step outside my comfort zone these last two weeks in church to deal with a subject that is on everyone’s mind, and yet is so greatly misunderstood. And when I did, I discovered the Holy Spirit was present to help me and to help the people.
What is the primary purpose of sex? The “super religious” people will usually say procreation. The “very worldly” will usually say recreation. The truth is that both of these are wonderful benefits of sex, perhaps even additional purposes for sex, about which we will speak in subsequent articles. They, however, are not the primary reason God created sex.
Just after God performed the first marriage ceremony in Eden, He said: “For this purpose shall a man leave his father and mother and the two shall become one flesh.”
The primary purpose for sex is to unite a husband and wife physically, emotionally and spiritually and allow them to experience the joy of a supernatural and extraordinary unity akin to the joy we will experience in heaven thru our oneness with Christ.
Sexual intimacy has the power to bind two people together like nothing else.
And science is helping us to understand how, as it explains the role of oxytocin, the bonding hormone. During pregnancy, especially during delivery, the level of this hormone increases in a mother’s body. It is this hormone, released by the pituitary gland, that creates the bond between mother and child and causes her to become so emotionally attached to her child.
Guess what! It is now known that during periods of sexual intimacy, especially if she experiences orgasm, the oxytocin level in a woman’s body increases significantly. And as a result of the activity of this hormone on her brain, along with another hormone, vasopressin in males, two people who are intimate become attached emotionally to each other. This phenomenon produces what Christians call a “soul-tie” between the two. And thus explains why some people who have been sexually intimate, especially if it is orgasmic, find it so difficult to “just get over him or her.” Consequently, such persons may find it difficult to bond emotionally with someone else who may be their spouse later in life.
With this information, we can better understand why sex is a gift of God to be enjoyed within the context of a covenant of marriage in which two people commit themselves to each other exclusively for life. Sex creates a soul-tie. It unites you to another person in a manner that has consequences long after the sex act is over and the formal relationship has ended.
Now, we understand better what Paul meant when he wrote:
“Or know ye not that he that is joined to a harlot is one body? For, The twain, saith he, shall become one flesh…Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. ” (1 Corinthians 6:16-18 ASV)
Oh, the wisdom of God and the truth of the Word! Long before science discovered it, the Bible revealed that sexual sins join two people together and affect their bodies in ways that are different from all other sins. Not only do those who commit fornication risk contracting sexually transmitted diseases, but they experience physiological changes in their bodies that affect the way they are emotionally, attaching them to people who have no commitment or interest in their well-being.
Child of God, how many persons do you want to be joined to in your soul? Sex is a precious gift for you to enjoy. But please keep in mind its primary purpose is to produce oneness, and understand how harmful it can be to your body and soul, if it is removed from the context of a loving, caring marriage between two people committed to each other exclusively.
If you are a virgin, plan to keep yourself for your spouse. That will be the best gift you can give yourself on your wedding night. But if you have already lost your virginity to someone other than your spouse, it is not hopeless. God’s grace is available for you. Receive forgiveness through your faith in Jesus and trust Him to break any soul-ties in your life that you may become truly one with the spouse he gives you.
May you experience God’s gift of sex to the max, the way He meant it to be!